CHEATING-THE OTHER SIDE OF INFIDELITY.

BY : CLIFFORD ADU KYERE DIABOUR

Integrity: Adhering to moral principles, honesty and the equality or condition of being whole and undivided.

Cheating: to deprive someone of something valuable by the use of deceit.

Most, if not all of us need and very much desire physical intimacy (yes, sex). Can I say sx on here? I’m not sure but sx is like the greatest thing ever invented. It is right up there with eating and sleeping. Everyone likes it, everybody wants it but when someone is in an exclusive relationship with another, married or not, you don’t get to have sx with whoever you want anymore. True, everyone makes mistakes sometimes, no one is perfect and at sometimes we are weak for one reason or another but an honorable man or woman, a person with integrity and inner discipline recovers and learn from the mistake and doesn’t repeat it. That is not what cheaters do.

Cheaters are habitual. That means repeat offenders. Cheaters talk about things like honor and will power and integrity but they don’t practice in in the place it counts the most, with their beloved. With cheaters, it isn’t about a “Mistake”, a one-time thing they feel horrible about afterwards and promise themselves never to repeat. Cheaters simply don’t care. it’s not that they don’t care about the girlfriend/boyfriend or fiancé or spouse that they have made a promise of commitment to.

They do care, they just care more about themselves. It is the promise of faithfulness itself that is meaningless to them. It is simply empty of any real sincerity but the problem is that the promise is accepted by the loved on as sincere. That promise is relied upon and as important as though it were tangible. So irrespective of how much the cheater spits upon the promise every time he or she cheats, that promise is HOLY. Yes, that’s right “Holy”

What does that mean holy?

Like a church holy or holy water holy?

Well, one could argue that any promise is holy but how much more so when a person believes and loves and trust and love makes the promise holy. It is not the hollow promise itself, but the loving reliance upon the promise that creates the holiness. The pure beauty of love and faith that is returned exclusively to the beloved.

The true sadness is that the beloved will eventually find out about the cheater and then the house of cards will come tumbling down. not only is the relationship destroyed but the trust, faith and love is destroyed as well and it may be difficult to ever trust again and any relationship. Such immense pain can be caused. Amazingly, cheaters don’t seem to care or think about the consequences of these indiscretions. do any of them think ahead of time about the people and/god forbid, children that will be left lying if any in the wake of this utterly selfish act? The people that will be left trying to pick up the pieces of their hearts and try to rationalize whether anything that they believed in was real.

BY : CLIFFORD ADU KYERE DIABOUR (A SOFTWARE ENGINNEERING STUDENT)


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